What Does Investing in Yourself Actually Look Like?

It sounds so obvious, but I was reminded last week that ‘meh’ days really are unavoidable. They just happen, and nobody's exempt. Sometimes I forget that it shouldn't be the goal to feel ‘great’ every minute of every day - not only is that expectation completely unrealistic, but it also comes with lots of unfair pressure. It sets us up to feel like we somehow fell short, or ‘did it wrong’ when a ‘meh’ day comes along – and those days are already enough of a bummer without the added shame of feeling like you somehow failed yourself.

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The Most Fruitful Place to Invest Your Energy

I’m an absolute sucker for personality quizzes and assessments, both classic and new. Always have been.Myers-Briggs was my gateway drug into the world of personality types, thanks to my dad. I remember taking it for the first time, and feeling bowled over by the depth and accuracy of those results. While my exact MBTI type has changed since I first took it as a preteen (I’m an INFJ these days) I still find a real sense of home in that personality description – and I like to revisit and reread it when I need some extra reminding and reassurance.

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Does Your Relationship Feel Out of Balance? Try This.

Many of the people I surround myself with these days are highly emotionally intelligent, empathetic people. (Coincidence? I think not.) And from talking with lots of them – and being one myself – I’ve noticed a common thread: we place incredibly high importance on being good to the people we’re close to, and really adding value to those relationships. We love to feel supportive, cooperative, and helpful. We take pride in our ability to show up and be a helper, a giver, or a solver – and slowly, feeling helpful can start bleeding into our sense of feeling valued

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10 Small Ways to Feel Less Afraid

We’ve all felt that feeling of knowing we need a change – the twinge in our gut, the almost-physical pull, the whisper from our intuition that won’t leave us alone. And yet almost every time, we try to run away from it at first. It’s human instinct to resist the things we don’t feel comfortable with - and if you’re like me, unknowns fit squarely in the ‘uncomfortable’ column.

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Feeling Healthy, Without All the Self-Punishment

I get squirrely writing about health, mainly because it’s a topic that stirs up so many feelings. Part of me feels unqualified to touch a subject that so many people struggle with and have complicated feelings around, especially knowing that I’m no health guru or wellness expert – but then, that’s exactly why it’s been eating at me for at least a year, whispering, “no one was talking about this stuff in the way I needed, when I felt ready to focus on my health in a real, lasting way.

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Words as Trail Markers: Some Favorites for the New Year

From looking around at all the people I love and admire online, it seems like everyone has their own way of moving from one year into the next. Some are eager to sit down with their resource of choice - their Desire Map or their PowerSheets or some other introspective guide - to carefully go over what happened last year, and how to shape the coming year. They reflect, and they brainstorm, and they plan. (This is me. And it takes an embarrassing amount of restraint not to want to use #allthetools.)

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It's Ok to Need a Change in Direction

There’s something so satisfying about arriving at an answer, solution, or a decision that sticks. Maybe it’s a promising relationship you stumbled into after a sea of bad first dates; or the new name for your blog or business that came to you out of nowhere after months of racking your brain for ideas; or the new workout studio that seems to be holding your interest longer than all those other gym memberships before it. The one that makes you think, “THIS. Yes. This’ll be the one that changes things for the better.”

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