Establishing trust in a relationship might seem like a simple and obvious box to tick. But as it turns out, not only is trust a complex and multifaceted part of any relationship, but it can also look wildly different from person to person. This formula will help you understand what you need to build a strong foundation of trust in your relationships.Read More
We talk a lot around here about being a Highly Sensitive Person - but we’ve never really paused to look at what that means. And for many of us, untangling this term and recognizing that there are others like us can unlock whole new levels of self-understanding, self-compassion, and even self-forgiveness. So let's break it down.Read More
A lot of the time when we talk about what it’s like to be a sensitive person, we wind up focusing on the challenges. In a lot of ways, that makes sense. Because the list of things that can feel especially heavy, or stressful, or overwhelming for us is a long one. I’m definitely guilty of focusing on that list too, partly because it feels like an important way to acknowledge and honor the complexities of our experiences. It’s why I spend time and energy writing about things like what to do when our relationships feel out of balance, how to diffuse overwhelming fear, and how to know when it's safe to push our boundaries.Read More
Even as someone who has a pretty good handle on her FOMO, there are definitely those predictable triggers that stir it up in me now and then. And every year around this time, as my Instagram feed starts filling up with snapshots of everyone’s brilliant and creative 100 Day Projects, and I start feeling FOMO-itchy. All I want is to jump in and join the creative fun with a perfect, witty, brilliant idea of my own! ...but you know how this goes. The harder you search for brilliance, or the perfect answer, or a genius idea, the more empty-handed you feel.Read More
When we talk about being self-aware or in-tune with ourselves, I think we tend to think of it mostly as a mental and emotional thing. Personally, I’ve always felt like a pretty self-aware person – and most of that work feels like it happens in my mind. Sorting out our feelings, dissecting them, making decisions, finding our boundaries, trying to decide what feels ‘good’ or ‘bad’ in a relationship or at a job … it’s all very cerebral.Read More
Last weekend, Joe and I watched the movie Lady Bird, and I felt a whole lot of feelings (which may or may not have included at least one instance of spontaneous surprise-sobbing). That’s not shocking, to be honest – not only am I a walking ball of feelings, but it’s also a movie packed with stories and themes that hit particularly close to home.Read More
At our core, we are creatures of comfort.
That fact plays a huge role in why we resist change, and why we struggle to leave or change our circumstances when they are mediocre at best (and at worst, destructive for our health and wellbeing).Sure, there may be better options out there, but they’re unknowns! Giant question marks! At least where-you-are-now is a known quantity.Read More
You know those questions that pop up in your mind, and then refuse to leave? The ones that get your wheels turning about possibilities, and won’t leave you alone? Am I happy at this job? Should I go back to school? Am I getting what I need in this relationship? Am I ready to take ____ leap?
At first, the question seems innocent enough. “Everyone has thoughts like this. They don’t necessarily mean anything.” But then instead of just fluttering away like so many other thoughts we have throughout the day, this one starts to feel sticky. It orbits you mind, and softly pesters you for an answer.Read More