Can you think of a time when you felt reluctant to agree with someone, uncomfortable with something happening right in front of you, or somehow taken advantage of – and yet you bit your tongue and went with the flow, to keep the peace? I’ll bet you can. I know I can. In fact, a recent one jumps to mind immediately, and it’s remarkably ordinary.Read More
Last month, I had an entire weekend completely and totally to myself. My guy was out of town, I had no plans, and zero obligations all weekend. Every now and again I relish having a weekend like that, for the chance to go full-introvert and reboot. I love the feeling of having unlimited time to tackle whatever I feel called to. I always imagine myself striking that perfect balance of Indulgent and Productive: crossing a thousand things off my to-do list, making myself amazing meals in my sparkling clean kitchen, squeezing in a manicure in between rearranging my furniture and finishing that novel on my nightstand. I’ll be a beacon of productivity! I tell myself.
But total freedom never quite feels – or works out – the way I imagine it will.Read More
One of the greatest strengths of being a deep feeler is the ability to keenly understand other people’s experiences and points of view.
As natural feelers, we can imagine what it’s like to experience what someone else is going through, which enriches our ability to connect with them in a meaningful way. We can see ourselves in a stranger’s story, and take on the weight of their feelings in a way that’s hard to explain to someone who doesn’t naturally do the same. We can start to dismantle the wall that separates us from them.Read More
It can be so tempting to go with the flow, can’t it? I think it’s why we get so comfortable throwing around, “I’m good with whatever” and “oh I don’t care, you pick” in our relationships. We don’t want to feel demanding, or needy, or high maintenance – so much so, that it can almost feel like a relief when someone else takes the wheel, and all we have to do is jump in the passenger seat. It’s a low pressure job, right?
I think some of that compulsion to not rock the boat comes from being the kind of person who loves the feeling of harmony – but it’s also a product of the world we live in.Read More
I want to take a minute and send a little extra love to all my fellow sensitives this week.You know who you are, and there’s a long list of ways you might see or describe yourself -- a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), empath, a “people pleaser”, that little “F” in your MBTI type, or even just the knowledge that you’ve been called “overly sensitive” more than a few times in your life -- I’m talking to you. Instead of giving you an actionable list of tips or a ‘how to’ this week, I just want to shine a little light on the tougher parts of being a sensitive person, and to remind you that you’re not the only one who feels them. I see you.Read More