One of the most important lessons I learned from this chapter of my life is that sometimes when life’s stresses start to feel like too much, leaning on an unbiased third party with professional training is the best thing we can do for ourselves. Here are 5 things about therapy I wish I’d known much sooner, to help me move through some common barriers to access and get the help I needed.Read More
When we talk about being self-aware or in-tune with ourselves, I think we tend to think of it mostly as a mental and emotional thing. Personally, I’ve always felt like a pretty self-aware person – and most of that work feels like it happens in my mind. Sorting out our feelings, dissecting them, making decisions, finding our boundaries, trying to decide what feels ‘good’ or ‘bad’ in a relationship or at a job … it’s all very cerebral.Read More
Last weekend, Joe and I watched the movie Lady Bird, and I felt a whole lot of feelings (which may or may not have included at least one instance of spontaneous surprise-sobbing). That’s not shocking, to be honest – not only am I a walking ball of feelings, but it’s also a movie packed with stories and themes that hit particularly close to home.Read More
At our core, we are creatures of comfort.
That fact plays a huge role in why we resist change, and why we struggle to leave or change our circumstances when they are mediocre at best (and at worst, destructive for our health and wellbeing).Sure, there may be better options out there, but they’re unknowns! Giant question marks! At least where-you-are-now is a known quantity.Read More
I’ve noticed heart-centered people like you and me are exceptionally good at doing two things: reading the room, and correcting the balance.Here’s what I mean. We’re wired to tune into what’s happening around us and sense what other might need to feel comfortable. And because of it, we end up using our intuitive gifts to fill in those voids and restore a sense of balance to most situations we’re in.Read More
It sounds so obvious, but I was reminded last week that ‘meh’ days really are unavoidable. They just happen, and nobody's exempt. Sometimes I forget that it shouldn't be the goal to feel ‘great’ every minute of every day - not only is that expectation completely unrealistic, but it also comes with lots of unfair pressure. It sets us up to feel like we somehow fell short, or ‘did it wrong’ when a ‘meh’ day comes along – and those days are already enough of a bummer without the added shame of feeling like you somehow failed yourself.Read More
I get squirrely writing about health, mainly because it’s a topic that stirs up so many feelings. Part of me feels unqualified to touch a subject that so many people struggle with and have complicated feelings around, especially knowing that I’m no health guru or wellness expert – but then, that’s exactly why it’s been eating at me for at least a year, whispering, “no one was talking about this stuff in the way I needed, when I felt ready to focus on my health in a real, lasting way.”Read More