To truly make the most of our strengths – like our natural compassion and our ability to help – we have to learn how to avoid emotional exhaustion, by drawing the line between being a team player and giving too much of ourselves. These 4 simple reminders can help get you back on track when a job or relationship leaves you feeling particularly emotionally drained.Read More
A lot of the time when we talk about what it’s like to be a sensitive person, we wind up focusing on the challenges. In a lot of ways, that makes sense. Because the list of things that can feel especially heavy, or stressful, or overwhelming for us is a long one. I’m definitely guilty of focusing on that list too, partly because it feels like an important way to acknowledge and honor the complexities of our experiences. It’s why I spend time and energy writing about things like what to do when our relationships feel out of balance, how to diffuse overwhelming fear, and how to know when it's safe to push our boundaries.Read More
Many of the people I surround myself with these days are highly emotionally intelligent, empathetic people. (Coincidence? I think not.) And from talking with lots of them – and being one myself – I’ve noticed a common thread: we place incredibly high importance on being good to the people we’re close to, and really adding value to those relationships. We love to feel supportive, cooperative, and helpful. We take pride in our ability to show up and be a helper, a giver, or a solver – and slowly, feeling helpful can start bleeding into our sense of feeling valued.Read More
I’ve been dwelling a lot recently on the connection between holding firm to our personal boundaries, and the negative energy that can sometimes come with it.
We talk a lot here about the importance of defining, articulating, and holding firm to our boundaries. And through one lens, these things might look and feel liberating and empowering. (That’s the goal!) But through another, that same list of ideas can feel rigid, negative, or even standoffish and defensive. Say ‘no’ more often. Defend your boundaries. Be aware of when you’re not feeling respected or nourished, and be prepared to fight to fix it. Blegh.Read More
When we identify as introspective or emotionally intelligent, it’s easy to believe we have all the answers when it comes to understanding ourselves, and keeping healthy relationships.
It doesn’t mean we’re immune to hiccups or missteps, or that we don’t sometimes need a minute to step away and figure out what went awry with that person we care about. But in general, we ‘sensitives’ tend to be really, really good at intuitively pinpointing nuances in our relationships, and understanding how they fit into the bigger picture. It comes with the territory. But as it turns out, knowing the answers isn’t always the same as living them.Read More