Posts in Kind Communication
The Power of Honest, Clear, and Kind

We’re wrapping up this series on Passive Aggression by answering the question, “so, what do I do with all this new insight?” — we’re talking all about the process of unlearning passive aggression, and how to replace it with something more productive. You’ll learn three vital ingredients for more productive conversations, and four ways to start putting them into practice.

Read More
Signs That Your Levee is About to Give

This post is part two of a three-part deep dive into passive aggression. This week is all about understanding passive aggression on a deeper level, through a lens of building better relationships and reducing inner turmoil. We’ll be taking a closer look at two things in particular: how we can get better at recognizing what passive aggression looks like in ourselves, and why it's such a commonly used tool in the compassionate person’s communication toolbox.

Read More
The Common Tactic I'm Committed to Unlearning, and Why

I’ve been thinking a lot about passive aggression lately: how it shows up, why it shows up, and how those answers are more complicated than just, “It’s an annoying thing that annoying people do.”  I think it’s pervasive, and easy to justify to ourselves — and yet, one of the fastest ways to put strain on a relationships. And to me, that makes it worth thinking critically about, understanding better, and most importantly, unlearning. This is part one of three, where we’ll be doing just that!

Read More
Time to Rethink Quiet Politeness

Can you think of a time when you felt reluctant to agree with someone, uncomfortable with something happening right in front of you, or somehow taken advantage of – and yet you bit your tongue and went with the flow, to keep the peace? I’ll bet you can. I know I can. In fact, a recent one jumps to mind immediately, and it’s remarkably ordinary.

Read More
How to Start Hard Conversations

Communication is constant, and it fuels our lives. We bond with people we love by sharing thoughts and stories and encouragement. We connect with strangers by talking about common interests or shared experiences. Communication happens all the time, and often it’s so organic that we don’t even realize consciously that it’s happening.

But then there are those other times that call for a big, or difficult, or uncomfortable conversations. And those are the situations where “communication” almost-universally freaks people the hell out.

Read More